I overheard a group of women lamenting about how hard it seems to be to find a mate. They didn't have trouble meeting men, but the relationships never progressed. They were looking for romance and feared it was dead.
I disagree. I don't think romance is dead. It may be comatose, but certainly not dead. I just think that in this day and time, folks want everything too fast. We seem to go from first meeting to cohabitating in one fell swoop. Whatever happened to what my granny used to call "courting?"
Let's slow it down. Let's get to know each other. And most importantly, let's not assume that every relationship should end in love and marriage. Just because he isn't what you are looking for in husband, doesn't mean that he should be disgarded as a friend. I've always believed that people come into your life for many reasons. He/She may have come into your life, not as a potential mate, but to introduce you to his/her sibling, who IS a potential mate. He may be your new BFF, and not a romantic interest at all. Or he/she may have come into your life as a catalyst to learn a life lesson. Keep your mind open to all possibilities and let it flow nicely.
Your comments--priceless!
It's a day to celebrate the loves in your life, whoever they may be. If, for whatever reason, you don't have romantic love in your life, then celebrate the love of family, the love of good friends, the love of God, and most of all, the love of self.
I've celebrated many a Valentine's Day, with no significant other in my life. Whether or not there was a special someone had absolutely no bearing on whether I observed the holiday. I've always had my family to honor, if no one else. Stuffed animals and trinkets for my children, flowers for my mom, cards and gifts for Dad.
Lately though, I hear folks saying that if you aren't attached, it's a miserable day. I don't really understand why. Perhaps it's a reminder that you are single. Single ain't so bad--single could mean drama free. Single could mean that you are in a "loving myself" mode--where you may be going to school, starting a business, or simply discovering who you are and where you are going. I think it's all in what you make of it. But then again, for the last few Valentine's Days, I've been happily married.
I'm interested to know what you will do for the holiday--please also say if you're single or attached. And if do happen to be one of those who feel's miserable because you are without a mate--let me be the first to say, "HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!"
Your comments--priceless!
