A few weeks ago, I blogged about friends and choosing them wisely. Today is different. Let's talk about those who think they are closer to you than they are. Folks who think they are friends and you consider them "just someone you know." This is never a good scenario, as it generally ends with you telling that person, "Umm Muffin, you seem to have it twisted. We are not now, nor were we ever 'friends'" and their feelings being hurt.
Had anyone asked, I would have said, up until this past weekend, that I had done an outstanding job in letting people know where they stood, as far as their FOJ status. Obviously, I haven't. I had an incident where someone greatly overestimated their importance in my life. They were hurt that I refused to share certain details of my personal life with them. They felt that I was obligated to do so. I thought differently. They lashed out in what I think was an inebriated fit. I responded. It was ugly.
I told everyone, at the beginning of the year, this is my year of change. And everyone won't appreciate the changes. Unfortunately, I have to do what's best for me, and not what's best for someone else. I was warned that some wouldn't like it, and I shrugged it off. But, perhaps I should have listened more closely. There are those who will be supportive and those who won't. Just the day before this unpleasant incident, I got an unexpected card in the mail from a FOJ. The card was about friends and appreciating them.
Looking back on it, I guess it was inevitable. But now I'm a bit concerned about who else might be confused about the nature of how we relate. I've never had this situation before. How does one handle these kinds of issues? And, is use of a "feel good" substance an excuse for such behavior? What do you all think?